Cuddle Workshop: Frequently Asked Questions

What is a Cuddle Workshop?

A Cuddle Workshop is a guided experience to explore the beauty and the power of Platonic touch. It is a safe and cosy place filled with love and connections. In our group, we like to explore all kinds of non-verbal exercises, including eye-gazing,  boundary setting, body language mirroring, melting hugs, cuddle tunnels and ponds.  A Cuddle Workshop is also an inner journey, where you have the chance to explore your emotions, patterns, and learn about connections, love, and self-love.

What happens at the Cuddle Workshop?

In the first half an hour - usually at 5 pm - we meet and mingle, have some tea, snacks, and conversation.  Then, at 5.30, the actual workshop begins, with a warm-up circle, opening a meditative, loving space. Hence, you are requested not to arrive after 5.30 because that is a sacred space we don't want to get interrupted. In the first half of the workshop, we do general, playful exercises to ease you into the experience and connect with the others. We then have 15 15-minute break, to have some tea and snack: you're welcome to bring some (vegetarian) finger food and (non-alcoholic) drinks for that, if you like. The second part of the workshop (until 8.30) is usually dedicated to a certain topic. In the past, workshop topics included: tribe forming, relationships, personal power, heart connections, archetypes and many more. After the workshop, we tend to linger on a little longer, because usually nobody wants to go home just yet! 

What if there is something I don't want to do?

Then you don't do it! At the Cuddle Workshop, we are actively setting boundaries. We have exercises to say 'no' and to check with yourself, what it is that you are comfortable with and what not. You never have to do anything that you don't want and never have to pair with someone who doesn't feel right.  You don't even have to touch anyone if it suddenly doesn't feel right during the evening. In fact, these workshops are very good for learning to set healthy boundaries, honouring them, and learn to tune in to your own needs and desires. 

Can couples come?

Yes, absolutely. Couples are very welcome to the Cuddle Workshop, as it can be a really rewarding experience to explore new sides of touch together. Whatever relationships you are in, straight or queer, mono or poly, feel free to bring your partner(s) along. During the workshop, you can choose your partners for each exercise, so if you are with a partner, you may want to do the more intimate ones with them, while for others, you can socialise with the group. 

Can I come alone, even if I'm in a relationship?

Yes, since the cuddles here are strictly non-sexual. Still - for the sake of domestic peace - it is well-advised to check with your partner how comfortable they are with you exchanging hugs and cuddles with others.  In case of doubt, and if they are open to it, bring them along. Also, if you have been attending these workshops and then form a new relationship, you can bring your new partner with you. The shared, tactile exercises may deepen your new bond. 

What is your policy regarding LGBTQ+ inclusivity and gender diversity?

People of all sexual orientations and of all genders are warmly welcome. Since all the exercises are Platonic in nature, sexuality and gender do not even matter, but it's important that we are creating an inclusive, safe space for everyone. Participants are encouraged to show their authentic selves - in an environment in which everybody can be who they truly are. 

We acknowledge the non-binary nature of gender. For practical reasons  - as past experiences show, this makes the workshop easiest to navigate for most people - we aim for a rough gender balance within the group. Once the workshop starts, you can choose whoever you want to pair or team up with, as the dynamic of the group allows. 

I'm worried that sexual feelings may come up...

That's only natural. There's nothing wrong with sexual feelings and energy - it is just not part of the cuddle setup. No need to feel ashamed, but if these feelings or bodily reactions arise, please take a little break - the same way when you choose not to participate in an exercise - and let these energies cool off. (There is plenty of room at the premises to discreetly step aside for a little while.)

In general, please come with the intention to connect on a deep, human level, rather than in a sexual way with others.  

How should I dress?

In short: whatever you feel most comfortable in. Dress as you feel best, being yourself. Within that, it's a good idea to wear clothes that allow for free movement, so that you are not restricted. (Think of a yoga class.) It is important that you come clean and well-groomed, providing a pleasant experience for everyone. 

​For allergy considerations, please don't wear perfume or strong aftershave. (Deodorant is fine, especially of natural origin.)