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To Create Gender Harmony:
Meeting the Dark Feminine

The other day, I was meditating on genders: not only from a social and personal perspective, but also in a spiritual and metaphysical sense. Intuitively, we feel that we have lived with a gender imbalance for thousands of years: on a crude level the resulting discontent brought us feminism, pointing out the “bad” masculine suppressing the “poor” feminine, but is it really that simple?

The Light and Dark Aspects of Both Genders
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Both the Masculine and the Feminine genders have their Light (constructive) and Dark (destructive) sides. History has shown us a lot of manifestations of the Dark Masculine. The pages of our history books are filled with blood-thirsty stories of war, conquest and genocide – killing is the main aspect of the Dark Masculine.

​We have also seen day after day, year after year, century after century the workings of the Light Feminine: woman giving birth, nurturing and nursing their children and families. Nurturing life is the main aspect of the Light Feminine.
We have also seen some manifestations of the Light Masculine – it is there in Vincent’s starry night, in Mozart’s magic flute, in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and in Buddha’s Journey towards Enlightenment. Its main aspect is the focused, visionary intent - which has traditionally been overpowered, just like the Light Feminine. In Jonas Mekas' words, civilisations have listened more “to their politicians and not to their poets.”
I began to suspect that the Dark Feminine has been overpowering the Light Masculine just like the Dark Masculine has been suppressing the Light Feminine. But what is the Dark Feminine energy really?
To find the Dark Feminine energy, I go deeper into meditation. Strange impressions are coming to me, like being in a womb or inside an egg, waiting to be born. While the Light Feminine surrounds the fetus to nurture it, the Dark Feminine infiltrates it in a more sinister way. I sense that the Dark Feminine decides what is it that will be allowed to live and what is  meant to perish. In analogy to the Dark Masculine, which kills, the Dark Feminine decides what is allowed to be born ... not just biological children, but ideas, projects, manifestations. It can be a good gardener, keeping the weeds out, but it also has the power to cause procrastination, energy deficit, doubt, and self-sabotage. 

Who Must Give the Mandate?

Both the Dark Masculine and the Dark Feminine can be very useful energies. Think, for instance, the case scenario when a tribe living in nature is being attacked by an outside enemy or predator. It is then very beneficial if the women of the village can instruct their warriors to protect them and the children. Trouble starts, when it is the other way around: when the warriors  go and live out their instincts to conquer without the Light Feminine mandate, and even require the Feminine to submit to their dark instincts. 
For Light to govern the world, it would have to be the other way around, for both genders: the Light Feminine should govern the Dark Masculine and the Light Masculine should govern the Dark Feminine, not the other way around! It should not be our killing instincts to decide what may life or die, but it must be our highest vision (Light Masculine) and our creative power (Light Feminine) to decide what should stay and what should go.   

Letting Go of the Betrayal

How often have we been betrayed like this? Not only in society, but also within our own psyche? How often have we allowed a Dark energy to decide upon how a Light energy should be used and not the other way around?